As children we rely on our parents for everything – literally for our survival.
This means that we tend to believe what our parents tell us.
We strive to support our relationship with them (our attachment) over our relationship with ourselves (our authenticity)…
Forty year old Sara* is having a meltdown in regard to applying for a job that she’s well qualified for and that she knows she’d be good at.
Each time she goes to apply she finds herself distracted and is unable to complete the application. She says she feels like her body wants to collapse but she can’t understand why.
Working with this through Embodied Processing we track this back to her memories of feeling fearful as a young child and being told by her mother to ‘not to be so stupid’ and ‘to stop being such a sook’.
Since our parents are who we look up to as children and we rely on them in order to survive, we tend to take in these messages as beliefs.
In this case the message from her mother translated from ‘I’m stupid/a sook to feel fear’ too ‘I’m wrong to feel fear’.
It became shame, a disconnect from her authentic or ‘true’ self… and this was held within her body, holding her back from what the more adult part of her knew she was capable of.
We worked together to support this younger part of her, to see, give space and give a voice to it. Sara was then more able to move on with her life and apply for the job.
'Until our childhood beliefs can be uncovered and examined they will have lifelong effects'
... often creating blocks or a sense of stuckness... as it did for Sara until we were able to work through it together.
Wishing you well in this crazy human life.
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